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Cleaning House

March 7, 2013

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Last month, as we were going through the saga with Elise’s glaucoma surgery, I found myself feeling frustrated with Facebook. I wanted (and needed) to talk about what we were going through with my close friends & family that are far away, but I felt like I would be boring or annoying other people on Facebook. I totally understand the Facebook “lists” function and I tried to put together a list of people who I thought wouldn’t mind if I talked about the stuff that was going on. The more I tried to decide who would be on the list, the more I became annoyed with the entire idea is that I should have a place where I WANT to talk about our life & I have to worry that “friends” are going to find my updates to be tedious. So, I nuked about half my “friend” list. In my defense, I *may* have been a tad hormonal, as well as a bit emotional over the surgery deal, and I realize that I acted a little hastily. On the other hand… I don’t find myself wondering about what I’m missing.

As a person who spends most of the year apart from my family (who is spread far & wide across the country) I depend on Facebook to keep us connected. It’s a great resource for that and I’m glad to have it. It’s also a very valuable business tool, and I’m grateful for that too. I think I’ve just outgrown the idea that the number of friends I have on any social network is somehow an indicator of how connected I feel to anyone. I think, on Facebook, I’d rather have a small list of people that I love and who care about us & what happens with our family.

*end rant*

On another note, I’ve been toying with the idea of removing the girls from my blog entirely. The older they get, the stranger I feel about them being known by people who THEY don’t know. I’m curious what you all think about this odd facet of semi-public blogging life. Should your babies be blogged?

AUTHOR: erin coopercomment (8)

  • http://twitter.com/dustbury Charles G Hill

    My babies are in their thirties, so I figure they can fend for themselves. (And two of the grandchildren are already on Facebook, though they don’t make a whole lot of noise there.)

    Still, I can understand the concern with the girls: there are entirely too many weirdos out there.

    • pippinpearl

      Exactly. All the weirdos I know seem to be okay — it’s the ones I DON’T know that worry me…

  • http://twitter.com/allyinwondrland Ally in Wonderland

    I’ve always wondered about if I have kids will I include them in my blog. Our world can be so scary that I understand why you want to shelter them, but also they are too darn precious not to share! I’m so happy her pressure is normal and she is better. xo Ally

    • pippinpearl

      xo to you too — so fab seeing you out the other night — we should do that on purpose one day soon!

  • Kathy

    I have felt the same way before wanting to update people but same as you not wanting to annoy other people. But these other people are supposed to be our “friends”!!! So strange! I can only imagine the stress you have been under with Elise. You are a great momma!

    • pippinpearl

      It’s good that we have a place for mamas to commiserate — Thank you, Kathy!

  • http://www.braidcreative.com/ Kathleen Shannon

    I hope Elise is doing well. Sending loads of love to her eyeball (and the rest of her… but you know).

    I love how you say this: “I think I’ve just outgrown the idea that the number of friends I have on any social network is somehow an indicator of how connected I feel to anyone.”

    Sometimes I find the bigger the audience the more distant I feel.

    Sidenote: Have you watched Amanda Palmer’s TED talk yet?

    • pippinpearl

      Thanks! It’s funny how the world & my perception of it seems to always be changing. Connection is so important, but even more so, a feeling that I will always have a way to be connected to the ones that I don’t get to see every day. // Yes! AFP is amazing. :)